“Take care of how you speak to yourself because you are listening.——无名氏
The things we tell ourselves have the greatest influence on our well-being. They do one of two things: help or hurt. It’s safe to say that most of us human beings find comfort in negative self-talk, as if insulting the self is a fast-track to growth. We inherently give ourselves permission to uplift and love on others, as long as we neglect to return such love inwardly. This vicious cycle, perhaps our second nature, can often feel unbreakable. But I urge you, don’t lose hope just yet.
研究 reveals that “individuals make about 55,000 self-talk utterances each day and 75% of our daily self-talk works against us” (Chopra, 2012). 是的，75%! If nothing else, this statistic shows just how responsible we are for our own stagnation. We truly are our greatest enemies. On the contrary, engaging in positive self-talk always works to our benefit. It helps us acknowledge our progress and the areas we’re gifted in as well as hinders comparison (Chopra, 2012). When we compare ourselves to others, we deny ourselves the privilege of celebrating our own unique person. We become so envious of others’ financial or popularity status, 外观, 甚至是人格特征, 我们实际上是在告诉上帝, “You didn’t create me well enough. 我需要更多才能被接受.” Positive self-talk thwarts those lies and uncovers our true, 难得的潜力, 授予对未来的远见, 并减少焦虑(尼玛瓦特), 2020). As if things couldn’t get any sweeter, a positive inner dialogue also reminds you that it’s okay to tell yourself “good job”. It’s okay to try something new and fail the 第一个 few times. It’s okay to be afraid of something unfamiliar. 没关系的.
Just like any other skill, controlling one’s internal dialogue takes deliberate practice. Albert Einstein said that “The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which they were created.换句话说, reprogramming your brain to think positively takes great effort and a higher level of thinking than used to create negative patterns. 你必须, 第一个, be 有意识的 of the things you tell yourself on a daily basis, scientifically known as meta-cognition and further described as “intentional, 有意识的, 有先见之明的, 有目的的, and directed at accomplishing a goal or outcome” (Chopra, 2012). As a negative thought manifests, you must deliberately capture it, and lay it beneath the magnifying glass of God’s truth about you. 几乎, this can mean writing down Biblical affirmations on sticky notes or even set as reminders in your phone. It means waking up and making the 第一个 words of your day empowering, beneficial ones.
If 有意识的ly repeated daily, affirmations like “I am patient,” “我有 everything I need for the season I am in,”“我是硕果累累,” “我有 an indescribable peace,” and “I am walking in God’s path for me,” will manifest themselves to be true. 我有, 就我个人而言, incorporated this practice into my own life, 相信我的话, God knew what He was talking about in Proverbs 12:18, “the tongue of the wise brings healing”, 箴言18章21节, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” I’ve found that reciting things like “I am selfless” and “I am generous” has allowed me to see opportunities in my day where I can do something selfless for the people in my life, especially my own family while I’m currently at home. 我有 begun to align my behaviour with the Biblical affirmations I speak every day and I am also so much happier because of it!
Consider that “believing in yourself” just isn’t enough, my friend. Merely “trying harder” to suppress your negative thoughts is simply unwise and quite frankly, 不可能的. The only way to break a habit is to create a new one. This world offers us countless outlets of negativity, paired with our own internal battles, that we are incapable of optimism without receiving power from the Good Source, 自己. If you think you can cultivate positivity all on your own, your cycle of negative self-talk says otherwise. 记住这个真理, stop feeding off of who you think you are or what your feelings would like you to believe, 而不是, internalize the words of the One who holds your blueprint. After all, who knows a product better than its creator?
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Chopra, K. (2012). 积极的自我对话的影响. 莱斯布里奇大学.
从检索 http://hdl.handle.net/10133/3202
Nimawat, M. (2020). Mental Health Benefits Of Positive Self Talk. 平静的圣人.
从检索 http://www.calmsage.com/positive-self-talk/